Kalibata City is an affordable apartments' superblok that lied very close to the centre business of Jakarta. People who lived there usually uses this reason to make their arrival at home sooner.
At first many people doubt the convenience because the unit were very small. How can you build a family there, where it was hard for your kid to play around. Well, the kids might not have enough room to run around in the unit but they are able to do that at the play area in every tower.
So if you think that living in an apartment means a private living, think again.
It has been a common that in certain time, there will be lots of kids playing there. Before 9 am, the sun spots filled with babies. I think this is the time when we started to see the sun as a bless from God. Then by afternoon from 12-2 pm is the time for the kids to have lunch and play around before they take a nap. Last, from 4-5.30 pm is the time for the kids to have dinner after taking a bath.
The question is who will be the one that accompany them? Well, because we have a small unit, many parents choose not to have a nanny. We can see many hot mamas here. Young, casual, update with many parenting ideas, but there also the classic one. Though sometimes we would be able to see hot papas =P
Meanwhile for parents who both have carrier, they could choose daycare or asking their parents to take care their kid or hiring a nanny, either they are permanent or not. Sometimes I got confused when the kids started to look like their nanies. Or when the nanny herself was quite modest. Is she a nanny or a relative?
Unfortunately, I was the one who've been accused a nanny by a nanny supplier. Oh, God.
OK, what I am trying to say is because I see this kids everyday, I began to identified them from their accompanion. I am not trying to look down to mothers whose have carrier, I was one of you once. But I feel sad when weekend come, the escorts didn't change.
When it was only the mother, the grandmother, and the worst is only the nanny whose again standing beside the kids.
I know for you who has jobs, Friday in Jakarta is like hell. And it took lots of energy for you to get home and all you want to do in weekend is to relax a little bit.
But if you have toddlers, weekend has no difference than any other days. And that's why you should keep wake up early and change position with your nanny. Let them do the domestic things and you take the personal yet intimate part. Take your kids to the play area and play with them, so we,your neighbours, could know the kids' parents. Don't you think that your kids might also want their friends to know their parents?
Maybe you think that you will play with them at the mal later on. But giving the opportunity to feed your kids completely to their nanny even on weekend is a shame. Or when you keep busy with your gadget on your weekend while taking your kids playing, we can't feel you, your kids don't feel you.
You might think that the nanny is your other hand, but if you make it 24/7, you are going to lose your kids. And by the time you realise it, it will be too late. And loneliness is your only friend that you can afford.
Do you think your nanny has giving the best parenting to your kids? Don't you want to complete it with your touch?
I've asked too many questions to myself. But who knows? Maybe I was wrong. Maybe the kids don't feel insecure without you by their side. Maybe I don't know what is your real problems?
I just feel, looking at myself, being there 24/7 for my kids, literally, I still found lacks of me. How can you do it if you never spend time with your kids?
An article once said that parents should give minimum 10 minutes everyday for their kids only. If you can't do that on workdays, it means you owe your kids 50 minutes undisturbed time. Minimum. Would you do that?
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